Avoiding Mom Burnout

Being a stay at home parent can be at times rewarding and frustrating at the same time. But we can’t escape the fact that sometimes moms feel stressed and overwhelmed with their many responsibilities. With all the pressure of being a mother, cook, wife, daughter, chauffeur and general go to person of the entire family, a mom may snap. And we certainly don’t want that to happen to you.

Burn out is a very real problem that you mustn’t ignore. Most of the mothers out there refuse to acknowledge that they need a break from taking care of their families. It isn’t a case of selfishness if you want to take some time for yourself and you are most certainly not abandoning your family if you take a few hours to go to the beach.

Being too stressed won’t help you be a good mom to your kids. You need to take care of yourself and develop a few techniques to get over the burn out. Here are some ways for you to get your energy back for the next day.

Refresh yourself.

It doesn’t need to be said that you have to take care of yourself physically before you can tackle your everyday responsibilities. If you feel that you are too tired and relying too much on caffeine to get through the day, then you might be neglecting your physical state.

Are getting enough sleep? Mothers are so focused on their family that they sometimes forget eating themselves when they feed their kids. Make your basic needs a priority. Sleep deprivation is a serious problem that is one of the main causes of burnout.

So don’t lose your precious beauty sleep. Eat a balanced diet and find the time to get in some regular exercise.

Take some time for your own interests.

A lot of mothers sacrifice their own hobbies when they become parents. It doesn’t have to be that way. Value your free time by doing the things that you like to do.

Prioritize.

If you are juggling carpool, cleaning the house, PTA meetings, errands, sewing a dress for your daughter’s play then you might want to take a step back and review your tasks for the day. Do the most important tasks first. Would you rather have clean clothes or spotless windows?

Laughter is the best medicine.

Find things in your everyday life to laugh at. A great sense of humor will carry you through the tough times. If your child has spilled pain all over him and his siblings, laugh and clean them up.

Go team.

Make sure that your family understands that all of the members are part of one team. Doing the housework by yourself maybe faster in the short run but this will quickly build resentment in the long run. Giving your family daily chores will spread the load. Besides giving your children chores will teach them responsibility. You are not your family’s servant.

Try out new things.

If you’ve given up your job to be a full time mom, then you may feel bound to the four walls of your house. We all tell our kids to try new things but fall short of practicing what we preach. Even if it is just to research a new career path or to learn playing a new instrument, take the time to expand your horizons. This will keep those feelings of being a prisoner to your role as a mother at bay.

Relax.

Take a deep breath when you are feeling overwhelmed with chores. It isn’t a good idea to procrastinate but will it kill you to take a few minutes between doing the dishes and doing laundry? On the weekend try to relax with your family. Go to an amusement park or the mall. Try not to think of the work come Monday.

Learn to give up some control.

It would be for the sake of your sanity, if you try not to mind when things get out of control. A traffic jam when you are running late isn’t something you can compel to move. Try to think of it as a time to relax or plan your other activities.

Motherhood can be a strange and wonderful experience. There are challenges in raising children but the rewards more than makes up for it. You’ll need to have the right frame of mind when dealing with all the problems that beset you on the way.

Remember to enjoy having your kids at home because when they do leave the nest you’ll be pining for those moments you missed when you were too stressed to care.