Helping Your Kids Deal with Anger

Children lack the emotional maturity to control their anger. They get angry when you don’t buy them the robot or the doll they want, when you tell them to sleep, when you don’t allow them to play outside, or when a sibling makes an annoying remark.  

Often, children and parents engage in a bout of wills, and parents always emerge victorious with the winning because-I-said-so argument. Many parents teach their children that they shouldn’t be angry because it’s bad, or that it’s their fault if they’re angry. However, these mistaken beliefs make it all the more difficult for parents to deal with angry children.

Children’s anger poses enormous challenges to parents who are committed to effective, ethical, and constructive child guidance. This article lists down some helpful tips about how you can guide your kids’ expressions of anger.

Establish a safe emotional environment

Create a climate that’s conducive to your children’s emotional development. A healthy early childhood environment allows them to acknowledge all their feelings (both pleasant and unpleasant) and to acknowledge that displaying anger isn’t shameful because it’s a natural emotion. You should guide your child deal with anger.

Be a role model

Don’t express aggressiveness in front of your children since many of them still don’t have the ability to understand this type of emotion. You can effectively help your children manage anger by modeling responsible management. You can do this by recognizing, accepting, and taking responsibility for your own anger and by expressing it in a direct yet non-aggressive way.

Help your kids develop self-regulation

You should help your children develop self-regulation. For toddlers and young children, you have the control of this self-regulation as children this age have limited skills in regulating their own emotions. As they get older, however, you can gradually transfer self-control to your children for them to develop their self-regulatory skills.

Help your kids make a word for angry feelings

Help your children make a word for feelings of anger. Help them recognize that they’re angry and teach them to use a label to describe this feeling – for example, annoyed, irritated, and mad. Teach them to refer to these words when expressing angry feelings.

Tell stories about anger

Read your children a child-friendly book related to anger and other emotions. A well-presented story about anger can validate their feelings, while giving important information about anger. You must examine the books first before reading them to your children since many stories about anger reflect irresponsible anger management.