Resistance to Change

At three, kids already have their own opinion about things. This is the age when they want to do things themselves or want things done their way. This is why some kids throw a temper tantrum when you make changes in your home.

Comfort and safety

Kids find comfort and safety in consistency. And since kids this age are in the "do-in-myself" phase, they may be reacting to changes made without their involvement.

What you can do?

Some kids are more sensitive to change than others. But that does not mean that you should shelter your child from change. Change is inevitable, and that is something that your child must learn.

The MayoClinic suggests the following steps to help your child deal with change:

Preparation – Knowing beforehand that there will be changes might make it easier for your child to deal with it; especially if you are planning to make a change that directly affects your child’s routine or his/her environment. For instance, if you are planning to paint your child’s room, tell him a few days in advance. Then remind him/her on the day that you are going to paint.

Participation – If appropriate, let your child participate in whatever change you are planning to make. For instance, since he could not paint his/her own room yet, let him/her move some small things out of his/her room such as toys. You could also let your child pick the color you paint his/her room. Ask something like "Do you like blue or green/ pink or purple?"

When resistance to change is a cause for concern

Though resistance to change is a normal toddler behavior, extreme, persistent resistance to change can be an early sign of autism spectrum disorder. Other signs and symptoms this condition include delayed speech, attachment to a particular toy or object, unresponsiveness to others, and poor eye contact.

If you notice any of these signs in your child, and if you’ve tried the methods above and saw no changes in your child’s behavior after a month, consult his/her doctor.

Source: MayoClinic